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Do you know why you've failed at your diets
in the past?
And why you will continue to fail at them
unless you do things differently?
In this email you're going to not only learn why...
but WHAT to do about it.
But first, I want to share something interesting
I've noticed over the last several years studying
and observing how women lose weight...
It's that when lots of women start a diet, they
seem to have NO IDEA what will keep their
enthusiasm going and keep them from cheating... and
eventually failing.
And when they fail on these diets, they feel
"out of control" of their lives...
like a weak person that has no willpower...
or a loser that's failed -- again.
Have you ever started a diet and really
believed that THIS time it is gonna be different
because you have found that drive and
determination to change yourself... NO MATTER
WHAT IT TAKES?
Have you told yourself, "I don't care how hard
it's going to be. I'm ONLY going to eat what
my diet says is okay to eat."
If you're like me, you've said that to yourself
about a million times.
Let me tell you a story...
Here I am.
I'm on a diet.
I have been so good all day long and only
eaten exactly what the meal plan told me to eat
today.
I'm feeling really good about myself and know
that I'm going to have a great time at the party
tonight.
I show up at the party feeling great and looking
good (just as long as no one notices my support
girdle that is holding my stomach pooch in).
I make my way over to the appetizers and there
they are...
Fresh baked, hot chocolate chip cookies!
NO! Not my WEAKNESS!
But there they are... teasing me with their
sweet, sugary aroma and hot steam dancing around
the slowly-melting chocolate chips.
My senses take all this in and my mind
quickly zooms in on the chocolate chip cookies.
Suddenly, I can think of nothing else.
It was as if everyone in the party has
disappeared and there is a spotlight pointed at
the tray of cookies.
I tell myself, "I've been so good all day
long. One cookie isn't going to hurt any."
So I grab one and stuff it into my mouth.
Pure decadence.
Mouth-watering ecstasy.
No worries in the world... just me and my
cookie... wait!
It's gone!
That was over way too quickly... I must eat
more.
And so I grab a second, and then a third, and
then a forth... and before you know it, I've had
6 fattening, sugar-filled chocolate chip cookies.
Was that on my diet meal plan for the day?
I guess probably not.
All at once it hits me...
What Have I Done?!
I ate 6 chocolate chip cookies in less than
5 minutes.
How could I let that happen? I was doing so
good.
Well, now that this night is shot... I
might-as-well enjoy it while I can and have some
fun.
So I go over to the chips and guacamole and
start piling it on.
I tell myself, "I'll start back on my diet
again tomorrow."
And so the cycle repeats...
Isn't that a funny phrase, "start back on"?
How can you "start back on" anything?
Can't you only start something ONCE?
How many times have you "started back on your
diet"?
If you're like me then you don't even remember.
I would start a diet and really believe with
all my heart that I would stick with it... that
NOTHING was going to break my willpower.
I would tell myself,
"This time it feels different."
"It feels special."
So why did I always end up back at the same
place with a cookie in one hand and a fried
tortilla chip in the other?
I was doing everything I could to convince
myself that I needed to change my body.
I took a 'fat picture' of myself and pinned it
to my bathroom mirror, I made a list of all the
things about my body that I hated and wanted to
change, I even laid out my high school jeans so
I could look at them every day for motivation.
But still I was cheating.
Still I couldn't keep from eating those
super-fatted and sugar-filled foods.
You would think that the disgust that I felt
every time I caught a glimpse of my thighs in a
mirror would be inspiration enough to
PUT DOWN THAT COOKIE AND GRAB A CELERY STICK...
but it wasn't.
Every time I started a diet to change the body
that I hated, I failed.
Finally, it hit me...
THE BIG AH-HA THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING FOR ME
Maybe the reason that I kept failing at my
diets wasn't because I didn't have ENOUGH hatred
for my body...
Maybe that hatred was actually the reason
why I was failing.
I started to think about this a little deeper.
I had been torturing my body and trying to
force it to change... but it wasn't responding.
In fact, it was rebelling and I was getting
fatter.
The more I thought about this, the more it
seemed to make sense.
Of course!
Why SHOULD my body change?
What motivation am I giving it?
Hatred.
And what responds positively to hatred?
Nothing.
Think about what would happen if a friend
wanted YOU to change.
If she comes to you insulting you... and telling
you everything that she hates about you... and all
the reasons why you should change... and then
DEMANDING that you change...
You're probably not going to react really well to
this line of talk... and you are probably NOT going
to change.
No, you'd just get defensive and grind your heals
in deeper.
But if she comes to you with caring... and
humility... and from a place where she is wanting
to help you because she loves you... and then she
convinces you there are wonderful reasons to
make the change...
You might feel inspired.
You WANT to change.
I started to treat my own body like a friend
that I wanted to inspire.
Every day I would tell my body all the
beautiful things that I loved about it.
And when my body (or mind) made a mistake, I
immediately gave forgiveness because I didn't
want my body to become discouraged.
This shift in my thinking about my body
changed my relationship with my body.
It was no longer an enemy that I was fighting
against... My body became my strongest ally.
And we were fighting together for the same
common goal -- to be the healthiest person
possible.
It was suddenly much easier to stop
eating junk food or to stop after one. It
actually brought me JOY.
And that was just the beginning...
The more time I spent exploring my body, the
deeper into my SELF I travelled.
And you know what I found?
Hiding underneath all these bones and organs,
quietly and patiently waiting to be discovered...
Was my spirit.
And once I was introduced to my spirit, my
fascination with my body faded quickly.
And I made some really big discoveries...
I am more than my body.
This body is where my spirit lives.
Every time I eat junk food or crap, I am
polluting the house of my spirit.
More than that, I WANT to give my spirit a
beautiful place to live... and only pure, clean
natural foods can build that.
And so I started eliminated unhealthy foods
from my diet, one-by-one and replacing them with
healthy foods.
And the healthier I ate, the brighter my spirit
shined.
I love that feeling.
I CRAVE that feeling.
I appreciate how great it feels when your
spirit shines brightly because I spent the first
decades of my life without that feeling.
And now, I'll do anything for it...
I'll even give up chocolate chip cookies.
I even enjoy working out.
If this sounds crazy to you, I understand.
I never thought I would find a better feeling
than eating a plate full of chocolate chip
cookies... but I have.
When I feed my spirit the pure, clean, natural
foods that it needs...
My spirit rewards me in so many ways.
I have more energy than I know what to do with,
I laugh like I did when I was a schoolgirl, and I
find happiness EVERYWHERE - even in the most common
things.
You may be thinking, "You get all this from
food?"
Believe it or not, Yes.
When I finally found a deeper motivation to
eat healthy foods, I stopped eating crap.
All that crap I used to eat was dead.
Dead of life, dead of nutrition, and dead of
any good energy.
Once I started to eat healthy foods, it was
like someone came and breathed life into me.
It feels so good to eat healthy!
And it begins to actually taste BETTER to
you than that junk food does.
When your food is dead - YOU ARE DEAD.
I feel like I am alive for the first time in
years.
I got so many good feelings from eating
healthy that I got hooked and didn't want to eat
anything else.
And you know what happened?
My body started to change.
My eyes got brighter, my skin got clearer, and
all that extra fat around my thighs, butt and
stomach disappeared.
AND I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE
When I started talking to other women who have
healthy eating habits, turns out they all have
some higher motivation for rejecting crap and
embracing healthy, natural foods.
Some are healing from an illness...
Some are following spiritual beliefs...
Some have ethical reasons...
Regardless of WHAT the motivation is... it
always comes from some higher place other than "I
want to look hot in a swimsuit."
The physical desire to change won't carry you
through those really difficult times when you want
to cheat because that's a physical desire as well.
The physical pleasure you get from pigging out
won't always win over your physical desire to be
"hot"...
But your spiritual one will.
When your motivation comes from the deepest
place within you, it is driven from a much more
powerful force.
It is NOT driven by fear or hatred - it is
driven by love.
And that's what kept me from cheating and
failing at my diet.
Today, if I do decide to cheat (which I
sometimes do) I know that I won't feel good after
I eat it, and it won't give me the same rush of
health that I've become hooked on...
But I do it anyway and I allow myself the
enjoyment while I'm eating it because I know that
that's ALL the enjoyment I'm going to get.
I deal with the after affects - the bloating,
the indigestion, the sluggishness and lack of
energy...
And then I get right back to my healthy diet
because that is what I prefer.
Now, I CHOOSE foods that give me sustained
enjoyment that nourish my body, mind and spirit.
Look, I'm not some spiritual sage levitating
four inches off the ground in lotus position...
I'm not some great and powerful person or
some holy saint with superhuman powers...
I'm just a regular woman from a small town in
Texas that turned my attention to what really
makes me happy... and I found out that it wasn't
in chocolate chip cookies after all.
I know any woman can turn her attention
inward...
and discover what REALLY makes her happy...
so that she can start to make better choices.
And when you PREFER to make better choices,
you will STOP failing at your diet.
In fact, you won't have to ever diet again.
I know that this is not something that happens
right away, and that maybe you might need some
more guidance to find your way to where I am.
Well don't worry, I've got you covered.
I'm not gonna just leave you here.
There is a very simple and straight-forward
PROCESS that you can follow so you can start to
figure out for yourself what this bigger, deeper
motivation is inside of YOU.
You don't have to feel like a loser anymore
with no self-control... there is a better way.
And I'd love to show you exactly how.
I'll talk to you again soon, and I'm
wishing you the best in health and happiness.
Light and Love,
Andrea
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