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In this article, you are going to be given
information that you can use to better understand
the power other people have on you.
If you don't understand this power it may
KEEP YOU FAT FOREVER.
Have you ever made a commitment to yourself to
eat healthy so you can lose weight...
And you do really well when you're by
yourself...
But as soon as you're around your family, or
your boyfriend, or a friend that is pigging out
in front of you...
You say, "F*** it! This dieting stuff is
just too hard!"
Have you ever wondered WHY these other people
have such a powerful influence on the choices
YOU make?
Is it something you can change?
We live in a pretty twisted culture.
I didn't need to tell you that.
But I'm not just talking about the psycho
killers and the serial rapists causing terror
and ruining lives...
There is another silent destructive force that
is sabotaging the lives of millions of women and
EVERY woman needs to be aware of it...
It's the vicious competition and judgement
women have against every OTHER woman's body.
And the worst part is that we are doing it
to eachother without even knowing it.
The women who you trust the most, and who are
the closest to your heart... can also be the
greatest obstacle you must overcome in order to
get healthy.
I know, I know... you're probably thinking,
"Another obstacle to losing weight?!"
Sorry to bring you down, but I know you can
take it.
I know you're serious about losing weight and
KEEPING it off - FOR REAL this time.
So you have to be aware of ALL the forces
that are holding you back and keeping you fat.
And your girlfriends are a big one.
Your friends don't want to hurt you, they are
not going out of their way to intentionally do
you harm.
But your friends DO hurt you... and in
this area in particular... and you need to be
aware of it.
Don't get mad at them.
Forgive them, of course, but understand they
are not necessarily your friends when it comes to
getting healthy and losing weight.
It's not their fault.
It's not your fault.
So... who's fault is it?
And more importantly, what do we do about
it?
Don't worry... you're going to get all the
answers you need right here.
The first step is to understand WHY women are
competitive with each other about their weight.
It all started back in our childhood.
Let's compare little boys to little girls--
Boys compete in sports and they are used to
just beating the crap out of each other.
Maybe they bruise eachother or somebody walks
away with a bloody nose...
But a bloody nose goes away.
You know, it's not that big of a big deal.
But women generally don't compete with
each other in sports.
Think about it--
When your childhood girlfriends came over to
play... what did you play?
You played Barbies, or house, or some other
game that imitated a woman's life as an adult.
Nobody wins or loses in Barbies.
There's no competition.
And that's great! That's why women make the
best negotiators...
Madeleine Albright was an outstanding
Secretary of State...
BUT...
The downside is that where women end up
competing with each other is not in a friendly
sport competition, but in subtle acts of social
dominance.
Whoa ... did I just say that?
I love that. Let me say it again but this
time put it in quotes so we can all admire it:
"subtle acts of social dominance."
Or to put it another way...
WE ALL WANT TO BE QUEEN.
Women are constantly trying to undermine each
other and get ahead in this social competition.
And there's no stronger way to do it than to
make another woman feel fat.
>>>THE LABELS WOMEN PLACE ON EACH OTHER
I remember one afternoon in high school that
has always stuck with me.
I was hanging out with a few of my girlfriends,
watching a movie after school at my friend
Danielle's house.
She made us some delicious movie munchies--
chips and nacho cheese with hot sauce,
oven-baked cookies, and caramel popcorn.
We all squealed with delight when she walked
out of the kitchen and placed the treats in
front of us.
All my girlfriends quickly dove in...
But I didn't.
I remember thinking to myself, "I'm going to
show that I'm stronger than they are. I'm not
going to stuff my face like a pig... and then
they will all admire me for my willpower and
strength."
So I sat back on the couch and continued to
watch the movie.
I made it about 15 or 20 minutes until I
realized that nobody was NOTICING and admiring
my incredible willpower...
And the sensory overload of all the delicious
smells and the crunching sounds were breaking me
down...
I jumped into the feast with the rest of them.
After a few more minutes, my girlfriends were
getting stuffed... and they were starting to drop
out of the feeding frenzy.
One-by-one.
Each one of my girlfriends sank back onto the
couch sighing and clutching their bellies
...until I was the only one left.
I had just found the perfect rhythm and
sequence of what tasted best, and in what order:
Nacho - popcorn - cookie.
And Repeat.
Nacho - popcorn - cookie.
And Repeat.
That's when my girlfriend Tara looked at me and
said, "My God! How much are you going to eat?
You've been stuffing your face non-stop forever!"
The humiliation washed over me and I turned
bright red.
I was just given the label that every woman
dreads.
I was the "Out-Of-Control Pig".
What had started out as my plan to be the
in-control, strong woman of the group (aka THE
QUEEN)...
ended up backfiring and putting me at the
bottom of the pecking order.
I wanted to yell out, "NO! I started way
after you all did - I watched you guys pig
out!"
But I knew that would only make me sound
even more desperate and pathetic.
I bit my tongue and sank back onto the couch
in utter humiliation.
That is just one example that has stuck with
me. Can you think of a story from your past
where one of your friends (or worse - a group of
your friends) made you feel like a gluttonous
pig with no self control?
Are you aware of HOW this could affect your
self-image of yourself?
Well, I'm here to set you straight.
You are not an out-of-control pig...
And neither am I.
My girlfriends were trying to tear me down
so that they would feel better about themselves.
Like I said, men compete athletically and
women compete socially.
But the damage that women do to each other
is way worse than a bloody nose.
We can literally emotionally damage each other,
and give each other bad habits, and bad thinking
about food, and about men, and all this kind of stuff...
...FOR LIFE.
2 women can be such a bad influence on each
other that they can actually PREVENT one another from
growing in a positive direction.
Let me explain...
Have you ever had a "pig-out buddy"?
You know, a girlfriend who you could invite
out for ice cream, or to share the cost of a
pizza... and she would always say, "Sure!"
A girlfriend that you loved hanging around
because she usually ate MORE than you...
and whenever you were with her, the LAST
thing on your mind was dieting or healthy eating.
If you're like me, then you've had a few of
these women in your life and probably a few at
the same time.
Well, this is the perfect example of how
women can hurt each other.
What happens with your 'pig-out buddy'
is that you are actually ENABLING each other...
In the same way an alcoholic sometimes has a
'drinking buddy' who is their "enabler". It's that
person that they can get away and drink with until
they are oblivious without JUDGING them for it...
or that particular bartender they know that won't cut
them off.
The enabler. That person in their life who
always wants to party... and enables them to feed
their addiction.
And what happens when women become each
other's enablers?
Dis - ease and Un - health.
You gain weight and you eat crap that sticks in
your arteries for a lifetime and clogs up your
liver and your kidneys...
And you get addicted to these chemicals in junk
food that mess with your hormones and make you
bitchy...
And your fat cells plump up and form craters of
cellulite...
...Should I go on?
This is no joke or casual topic.
You're really doing ACTUAL damage to yourself.
This is serious and it may be a MAJOR cause of
why you can't lose weight.
In his book 'Vital Friends', Tom Rath talks
about this powerful influence friends have over
each other.
According to his research study, if your best
friend eats healthy, then you are 5 times more likely
to eat healthy yourself.
But...
If your best friend eats crap, then you are
5 times more likely to eat crap.
So choose your friends wisely, but if you can't
... if your friend is a junk food eater...
BE AWARE that this is not a good thing for you.
This is a trap, and can destroy your chances of
losing weight.
You are going to have an uphill battle.
But you can't be mad at your friend over this,
that's ludicrous.
By being AWARE of it, you can take the first
step towards taking control and responsibility
for yourself and for what you do.
And if you have the stomach for it...
If you have the nobility of heart...
If you really believe that you're a special
person that can make a difference in the world...
Guess what?
You can become HER friend that eats healthy,
and then SHE becomes 5 times...
THAT'S 5 TIMES...
more likely to start eating healthy too...
and you can save her LIFE.
I've given you a powerful key to unlocking
the mystery of why you gained weight and
why you've failed at losing it.
Every step of awareness is important because
a woman's weight issues can be VERY complex...
I know. I've struggled with gaining weight
for my entire adult life, and I've spent the
last 5 years learning about the powerful
emotional and psychological elements of weight.
I know that it may seem overwhelming when you
first start out to lose weight and get healthy.
Luckily, you're in the right place.
There's no greater feeling in the world
than getting healthy and then motivating your best
friend to get healthy with you...
It happened for me, and it's life-changing.
She will be so inspired by the changes she
sees in you -- your happiness will shine from you
like brilliant rays of sunlight.
When you are happy with yourself and radiating
joy, you make everyone around you happier and the
world a brighter place.
So do it for yourself, do it for your best
friend, and do it for all the other millions of
people you will encounter and inspire as you
live your life as your best and happiest self.
I thank you in advance for sharing your light.
Your Friend,
Love and Light,
Andrea
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